Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Child trafficking

Child trafficking isn't just something that you see on t.v. or in the movies it is a real life crime. My eyes were open this weekend to the very real problem of child trafficking. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I was astonished to hear that it was even a problem for the united states. This isn't something that you think could be happening in your own back yard. Tears were streaming down my face as they told the stories of young girls and boys who were taken from their home and sold into a world of sexual enslavement. Even now as I write I start to tear up.  am very inflicted by this. It is a true tragedy. Kids are so Innocent and free and should never have to feel the pain of a sexual predator or being ripped from their homes. Well now there is a national walk going on to raise awareness and money to fight this in justice. I am taking part in this walk on Sept. 27 to help open the eyes of people so they can help with this problem. If you would like to help with this on going problem not just here in our country but to fight it across the world. If this pulls on your heart like it has mine you can donate money to this cause by going to my support page every little bit helps. Your money will be going to put military operatives in the field to go after the sexual predators and to free these children from this life. This is something that my heart is crying for and I know that we can make a difference and win this fight. Please help me to raise some money for this orginazation. If you would like to read more about the work that SCTnow does you can go to their web-site http://sctnow.org/ and read all about it. Thanks so much for taking the time to read this and to help support the fight against this horrible thing that is happening all over the world child trafficking is real and we can do something about it. Have a blessed week.

Thursday, September 10, 2009

that time of year again

We all know what today is and what happen 8 short years ago. It is so hard for me to believe that 8 years have come and gone. I think back to that tragic day and tears come to my eyes, I know we all remember what we were doing when as we watched in horror at what was happening to our beloved nation. Where we were at every detail, somethings you never forget. In this case you shouldn't, remember how our nation came together in support, remember what we stand for and why we fight for these things. No one is the world deserves to dye like that. Put your political views to the side and you beliefs about peace and remember. I just feel like many of us have forgotten what happened to our country and have heard very little from the people that I interact with on a daily basis. I really thought people would of made a bigger deal out of it. I also seen very little on the Internet, This makes me so sad. When I think of that tragic day tears still come to my eyes. I think about all the families who lost someone and all people who are still hurting. I think about our nation and how our security was ripped from us. I do feel safer 8 years after the fact but there is always a tiny thought that it could happen again if we forget. I know many people disagree with the wars but in my mind I feel taking the battle to the terrorist was the best thing to protect our country and our lies not to mention the lives of many Innocent people around the world. Alot of people that I know that disagree with the war have sacrificed nothing. They hardly support our troops most less know anyone on serving in our military. It has been a struggle for my family as we are a military family. Long times away from one another and days go by where we do nothing but worry for them. In the end I say it is worth the cost of freedom and safety. Please remember this day not for the death that was caused but for the awakening in America, The time when we all came together to morn and to rebuild. When we all wore our flags proud, and stood up against evil to better our world, when we all believed freedom was worth fighting for. Thanks for listening to my rant. God bless America

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

staying positive

Staying positive in such negative world is a hard thing to accomplish but it must be done to succeed. Everywhere you look you can find negative things it is almost hard not to. Watching t.v. reading the news papers, talking to friends or family. Why is it so easy to find these negative things. I think it because negativity is like a cold that is spread so easily. one person empties it out on to another and there the chain is born. You can break it though and choose to see the greatness of positive thinking.
It is true work to be positive and not let negativity in. I think it isn't so much about blocking the negatives out but more about flipping them into a positive.
Taking a bad situations and finding a good perspective on it isn't always easy we lazy by default. We want things to come to us naturally, and when we are in a bad situation we see that bad. It is sticking out like sore thumb. You have to open up your mind and get it working to see the good. Believe me there is good to be seen in all situations. Your tired busted, you didn't have jack and you were on the side of the road for an hour your whole day was ruined. Or Your tire bused and a complete stranger changed it for free and it only took any hour of your time. I really could go on all day with situations that can be turned into a more positive situation. The thing I am getting at is if you start looking for something positive in everything you do, you will be happier and everything will follow suit.
You will start to notice that everything around you it brighter, nicer, more fun and all around better. It is true that we see what we are looking for. Too many times have I heard This statement "nothing good ever happens to me" Of coarse with that attitude nothing good is going to happen. You have to be looking up and expecting good things for good things to happen. Then when something happens you will see the good in it because you were looking for it. If you wake up in the morning and say today is going to be a bad day, you know today is going to be a bad day. You know why...because you are looking for a bad day. ( I know no one really is looking for a bad day) But attitude is the key to happiness and success, among many other things.
A positive attitude can go far paired up with strong realistic goals, you could really do anything that your heart desired. Try it for a week ban the negativity out of you life. Every time you start thinking that way ask you self where is the good in this and you will find it. Then focus on it and taking with you. I know you are all going to have a great week.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

So all this talk about fair and change. Well it has been rolling around in my head and got me thinking about the current situation in America ( the greatest country in the world). There is so much change going on and it brought me back to the How do we know if change is good or bad. It is a hard question to answer at times. But with all that is going on right now I can tell you that change is not going to be good. Look around people aren't happy about losing their jobs and their houses. But now they have to worry about losing their heath care too. Obama (the great) is focused on heath care reform in the middle of the great recession. Him and his Buddy's passed a stimulus package that did nothing for the Americans paying the bill. We are still losing our homes and jobs. And what do they call us when we stand up, They call us mobs and Nazis, Are we not to have an opinion on our life for our country.
What to do they focus on Heath care. Yes Heath care FREE heath care. WHO is going to pay for this wonderful free heath care. Somebody is because nothing is free not even FREEDOM. I am getting all worked up at this. Maybe I need to stand back take a breath. It is hard not to be angry, when you feel that the people running your beloved country are out to pass everything for their own selfish beliefs. I truly believe that they believe this is good but they have never had a real job in the real world. They really don't live like we do, they have never struggled to make a payment on some bill, or scrubbed dishes because it was the only job they could get. I am not saying that being a politician is not hard work but it is in no way the life style of the average American.

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

To be Fair or not to be fair

I keep hearing "that's not fair" or 'We have to be fair"
I wonder where this concept of life being fair came from. I see way too many adults uttering these words. Maybe I don't have to tell you this but life isn't fair it happens and it isn't always right or fair.
Now I agree that if we lived in an happy imaginary go lucky world everything should be fair and would be. But we live in the real world and nothing is fair. If you look from two different perspective. One side is always going to feel cheated, well maybe not always but mostly.
You know I believe that we have been very blessed to have been born in America the greatest country in the world. We have all be given a chance for greatness, a chance to succeed. No matter what state or city, color or race we are or were born in, we all can achieve what ever we dream. This stigma of fair will only drag you down. It is quite possibly one of the worst words in the whole english vocabulary among other four letter words.
It starts when your a kid and your parents tell you that you have to be fair. It is Innocent and your parents mean well but there the seed has been planted. All through life it grows like the weed that it is.

Friday, July 31, 2009


First let me apoligize for the lack of post. I had did the whole vacation thing and then coming home. I found it hard to get back into my routines. Time has just been flying by lately and I can't seem to get a hold of it. The weather has been pretty nasty here. Today was a nice day, pretty with the sun shining. It finally felt like summer again. It was so nice. I took the kids out for the day and we got a bunch of yard work done. I love to tinker in the garden with them. My little ones can turn anything into a family like today there was the mommy rock, the daddy rock, and the sister rock. It was so cute. I can so get lost playing with them. Like I said time just flows on by. But I am back and there will be post. I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend. I will mine.

Monday, July 13, 2009


Finally we have taken our summer vacation home to visit with our family. My husband is in the army so we ended up being far from home and we hardly get to visit. I think it has been a year and a half since the last time we came home. I guess I figured that time stopped moving while we were gone. That everything would be as we left it when came back. That is would remain untouched, unchanged, the same. I can't believe how wrong I was. Everything has grown so much. I am so jaded about me missing the growth. I wonder if it would have been so noticeable if I was here for it. Would it of impacted me as much.
We went to our home church yesterday, a church that we have attended for the last 7 years. I had build the sermon up in my head for weeks, I couldn't of been more excited. We have been looking for a new church we live now and our search has been long and to say shortly we haven't found one. So I couldn't wait to go. When we arrive at the church we see these long lines and we think nothing of it. We take our seats and get ready for greatness. No sooner than praise and worship could start they Begin with the hour long commercial. There we two guess at the Church one who won a reality show and was there promoting her new c.d. and another who just wrote a book called the power of who. Both had little to do with the christian message, however I thought if I waited it would come. It never did come and the guy was pushing the sale of his book through out his whole speech. I understand that he has to make a living but using the church the way he did just didn't sit right with me. Even mid prayer this guy threw in something about this book. There is a time and a place for everything and using gods house is not a place nor a time for this. I wanted to walk out and quit my membership. This wasn't the church I knew and loved. It had changed so much. The church of the passed would of looked down on this. After leaving and taking some time for this all to settle I broke down in tears. I wasn't sure why I was so upset. I guess I had expectations that weren't met, and I had build up the experience so much. I had to wonder if I hadn't set them so high would I still be disappointed and I answered yes. I wasn't there for this change and I feel left out. People's lives still go on with out me and the world moves with out me. Weather I am here or not. I guess everything that I have noticed that has grown and changed has given me a new perspective. I realize I have changed too, maybe not so much as I have changed but I have matured and grown. We all grow and change it is a part of life and I know this and I accept it. I just want to grow right. I want to better myself. This is hard for me to accept. After walking into my once loved church and seeing how wrong it went. I want to know how do you know if the change you are making is good. I am leaving at this point and will come back once I gain more perspective on this.

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Setting Goals

When I want something I tend to have a tongue to mouth effect. I just blurt out I want it and never really give it a second thought on how I am going to get it. But when I did service work with the non-profit organization City Year I was actually taught how to make and achieve goals. Yes there is a formula out there.
I was taught about the S.M.A.R.T. goal. it is an acronym for
This is an amazing tool to making and planning goals. I have found it useful on several occasions.
So you start off being specific in your goal planning. First ask your self the five W's
(I am always a big fan of the 5 W's) what, when,where, why, who and how.

WHAT: What do I plan to accomplish, What is the purpose?
WHEN: When do I plan to accomplish it?
WHERE: Where is the place that is taking place?
WHY: Why do i want to achieve this goal, be specific, what will you get out of it, what are the benefits.
WHEN: When do I plan to reach this goal. What kind of time frame am I looking at.
HOW: How do I plan to reach what are the requirements and obstacles.


Now you have to make your goal measurable, you have to be able to track it to see if you are reaching you milestones. Set dates for certain parts of the goal to be reached by. When doing this step think how. How can I make this measurable, I suggest braking you goal up into three. Think How, How many, how long, and finally how will I know when I have reached one of my targeted achievements.


When you set goals you want them to be reachable and most every goal is. Using set by set planning will get you there. If you have a long term goal that seems like you may never reach it. Break it up into several smaller goals that in shorter amount of time will be attainable. Write the long term goal down on the top of the paper then list the shorter one under it. Of coarse use the Smart system. When we attain our goals. It empowers us and encourages us.


Now this is a hard one for me because I believe if you can dream it is a reality. I believe we are all the makers of our own destiny. There for any goal is realistic. So I say be truly honest with yourself, goals should be something that you are both willing and able to do. So I believe that if you have the will and you physical capable of doing it then it is a reality for you. Everything in life worth having takes work and lots of it. So if you set your goals high and work at them you will reach them. The mind is a powerful thing what you look for is what you'll find.


Not only as I mention above about having point of time where you can measure your goal but having an end date is very important for the mind. It crate a sense of urgency and perspective of where you want to be and when you expect to be there. "Someday" is not a date and it is hard to work toward "someday'. When you don't have a date you mind says "there is always tomorrow" I will tell you from past experience tomorrow never comes. When you set a date for completion you have began working the mind, you have set your unconscious mind into overdrive and it has already started thinking the hows and the when. When you place a time frame on your goal you have made it more measurable, more realistic, and in the end more attainable.

Setting goals is the best way to reach your dreams. I hope this formula helps you as much as it has me.

Monday, July 6, 2009

I have been getting bogged down by the daily grind for sometime now. I Live by to-do list and believe I wouldn't get anything done with out them. However I feel like I am struggling to get these things done. Just dragging and there just doesn't seem to be enough time in the day to get it all accomplished. I don't know where the time goes. I know I am not the only on who feels this way and I hear often of people getting stuck in a rut.
I guess I am in a rut. Sometimes we need a new game plan, it doesn't mean we need to change our routines entirely but maybe just tweak them a bit. Figure out what is working and stick with it, even build off of it. Like for instance I find to do list to be helpful for me and eventually I will get them done. But I am just having a hard time moving from my rut and getting motivated. So I plan to change it up a bit by scheduling the to do list. I am putting a dead line and giving my self more structure.
Structure is needed when running any kind of business but even more so in the home base kind. It can sometimes be hard to break away from home life and separate it from work, when you never leave home. I have a plan, I have written down what I feel is working and what I feel isn't working. I don't believe I will just quit doing what isn't working. We have to ask our selves why something isn't working what can I do to make it work, how can I do it better? Self improvement is a never ending battle, it is part of life. Problem solving will not only improve yourself but you business as well.
Maybe your not in a rut, but feeling disappointed in business being slow,having relationship problems or like your time isn't efficiently being used. This game plan can work for too.
1.First evaluate your life, business, work , or relationships. Define the problem areas/ weakness. Figure how they can be improved or fixed. Point out the strengths and build on it. How can I make this even better for my situation.
2. Have a game plan. Take both list and write out a sentence or two on what you want to do and how you are going to do it for each area. It is similar to making goals. So also write out how you can tell if you are meeting your expectations.
3. Don't rush. Change takes time and you should go at it slowly so it will stick. Do not get disappointed because it isn't happening instantly for you.
4. re-evaluate and start back at step one often.

Saturday, July 4, 2009

How do you know if you are an annoying twitter

Twitter has become huge and super popular. I my self am still unsure to what is was created to do but I use it to promote my Etsy shops. I have build up a decent following and think that I do well with it. However how do you know if you are linking people to an interesting place or if you are just annoying them. I feel that if you post only for your selfesh needs that in time people will get annoyed maybe even bord. They might just ingor you tweets but worse they may just quit following.
I think sometime we have to step back and look through the window with the on lookers to get a true propective of what we are doing. Twitter is a great tool if used right. So ask yourself why, what, where, who and how. Why do I twitter, what am I trying to get out of it, who am I twittering for, where do I want twitter to take me and finally how do I plan to use all this information. I asked myself these same questions this very morning. I am sure we all have different reasons for being on twitter. I want to promote a shop and a business and I want to build interest in them. I also want people to follow me and click on my links. So I also post interesting things not for me but for my followers. Sometimes when I see something funny I post on twitter. I also do this with good articles on running a successful business or tips to a healthy, happy life. This way I am not just spamming all of my follower but helping them to succeed in their endeavours. This way they are excited to see my new post and eager to click for the info I have provided. I think if you take a bit of these tips and apply them to yourself you will not only gain more followers but you have quality ones.